Thursday, September 13, 2012

Beware of Facebook Envy

Facebook has intrigued most of us, even if we swore we'd never open an account, or seldom post updates ourselves.  The average  user logs on more than once a day (40 times per month), and spends 23 minutes on the site.  What is it about this specific social media outlet that makes us feel compelled to peek at the lives of our family and friends, and in some cases, acquaintances that we don't even know that well?

Despite Facebook's bright side of staying connected with others, do you ever feel left out when you log on?  Like your life is not nearly as exciting as your friends?  It seems like every day is a party for some Facebook friends.  It's a Tuesday night, and you're home alone, bored, eating a microwave meal while doing laundry.  You take a break, go check Facebook, and see your friends "checking in"  at exquisite restaurants you would only visit on special occasions (and I remind you, it's a week night).  Others are posting their pristine beach vacation photos, looking model-perfect in their swimsuits standing by their adorable, smiling children.

My life is probably average on the scale of excitement, yet recently a friend mentioned to me, "I see by reading your Facebook posts that you're always doing such exciting things."  Really?  Actually, most of the time I'm either working, or at home doing mundane chores.  I then went back and read some of my posts...I don't post daily or even weekly, but only when I'm going out for a fun weekend evening or while on vacation. It's not that I'm trying to portray my life as something out of the ordinary, but ordinary posts of ordinary days are....ordinary. And who cares to read about that?

I watched the attendees on television at the Republican and Democratic National Conventions--so many of them had their camera phones poised, ready to take a photo when the Presidential nominee walked by. Rather than savoring the once-in-a-lifetime moment, they were staring into a little 3 inch screen on their phones, most likely eagerly hoping to post their brush with fame on FaceBook.

When you're having an ordinary day, remember that others have plenty of these days, too. When you're having a fun, out-of-the-ordinary day, relish it.  Stop the inclination to update your status.  Put your phone away and enjoy the moment.  There will be time to update your friends later--such as on a Tuesday night while you're doing laundry.


  1. <3 <3 <3 I have so many comments!! I'll wait until my next laundry break to post them lol. Good read Antoinette!

    1. Thanks Talea! Glad to know I'm not the only one who feels this way.

  2. Good post Antoinette. Many of us should follow your wisdom and read more (as you say "peak" and post less...except John...great stuff he's doing.

    Good blog and congratulations on the Maxwell certification and the GPS launch.


    1. Thanks so much for your encouragement, Danny!